Mindset: Stop Saying This

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I've been seeing this for a while now and it's still happening. Let me know if this sounds familiar, "I'm doing well for a side hustle" or "I'm doing well for just starting out" or any variation of those statements. Statements like these are detrimental to your mindset because it's limiting. The thing is, when someone makes statements like these, it has no negative effect on me whatsoever; I just hate seeing people limiting themselves. 

What You're Really Saying

...for a side hustle
...for just starting out
This stack of orders may not seem much but...

When you add this to the end or beginning of a statement, you're essentially qualifying the statement. Truthfully, I see insecurity when I see these statements. Are you trying to buy a verbal insurance policy by adding these extra words? If you're really proud of where you're at, then just say you're doing well. Let me put it this way, you want to claim you're doing well with sales but deep down inside, you're really unsure if you're doing well. If that's the case, you're better off just not saying anything. Save the "I'm doing well" statement for when you're positive you're doing well. There are many variations of this offence, but they all mean the same thing.

Why Is This A Problem

MINDSET...you're limiting your mindset. What you're doing is you're talking and thinking small which will lead to you putting limits on how much you can really do. I personally came into Poshmark with a mindset that I will outwork almost everyone out there so at the end of the day, I KNOW I'm doing well. There's no way in hell I will ever use my short time on Poshmark as a crutch to make excuses. I knew I was going to kick ass and I'm actually doing it. Ask yourself do you have that same conviction. If you do then talk with more confidence in yourself. 

If you're spending so much time sourcing, cleaning, steaming, shooting and listing, then quit speaking so lightly of yourself. What really confuses me is when the Poshbosses and Ambassadors are saying these statements. Really? Even though I find those titles to be a joke, I still don't think the two are compatible. 

Be Your Biggest Cheerleader

Don't let anyone outdo you when it comes to cheering for yourself. Honestly guys, quit thinking so small of yourself and really go after it. Not with just Poshmark but with everything else in life. I don't care if you just started reselling last week, there's no excuse for these words to come out of your mouth. When you really harness this idea, you'll start looking at your current situation differently.

Let me end this with an example:

Would you want to eat at a restaurant if you heard the chef said "My cooking is good for me just cooking for 2 months now."

6 Comments on “Mindset: Stop Saying This”

  1. I so needed to hear this words right now. Admittedly, I fall into the boat of the “side hustle” saying folks and those who have recently begun reselling. I’m 2 months into a handful of local vendor events and garage sales, as well as 2 weeks into Meet Up sites. I’m realizing through the process and through your words, the lack of true confidence in my abilities I went into with and how I’m just beginning to believe the comments I’ve received from others of being “a good salesman.” I didn’t go into thinking I was nor even thinking about that aspect at all. I just went into it with an open mind and by just being me, my natural abilities came through. Conquering my anxieties through it all has been the most challenging part. Gives me an idea, maybe a post on Anxiety in the future? Has that been something you’ve dealt with? I’m sure, like myself, there are many others out there who deal with Anxiety on a daily basis and probably like myself as well, it’s paralyzed them into non-action.

    1. Anxiety is something everyone deals with but I think it comes down to managing it. It’s the same for fear. I think my confidence just shows through more than my anxiety and fear that’s why I’m able to do the things I do. At the end of the day it comes down to self-efficacy and the right mindset.

  2. You’re absolutely correct; You are what you SAY!! Every day people ask me how I’m doing… I say AWESOME!! They respond by saying no one ever says that

  3. Ty for so much great info. You truly practice what you preach!?? I now say that my business is doing great!

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